Happy New Year to all of my readers, old ones and new ones. I begin 2020’s blog on the third Friday of the year, with the intention to carry on writing every Friday as I did last year.
I have taken a break from the blog as I have been working on a science paper for the last six weeks related to a course I did on Coaching’s effect on the Brain.
I chose to write about resilience, as in, your capacity to bounce back when adversity hits you.
Little did I know of how big the subject is, that it seems to be in fashion at the moment and that there is a jungle of information out there to be read through and chosen from.
I didn’t finish yet however I didn’t want to keep my blog on hold any longer.
The traditional subjects for the first blog of the year seems to be weight loss or how to keep your new year’s resolutions. Looking at the latter, as it can be applied to which ever changes you may have decided you want to make this year, I can generally say that one thing is for sure you cannot make any changes repeating the same things you did the last time.
So, if you want to make changes the first thing I suggest that you do is to figure out what it is that got to where you are, and know that “we can’t solve problems with the same thinking that created them”(Albert Einstein)
Which means that whatever got you where you are that you don’t want to be, that is the road you have to change.
It sounds simple enough and sometimes the very thing we want to change gets us back to where we don’t want to be.
You can use some of the tools you have in the former blogs or you could apply this simple technique that I give you below:
- If you think in pictures you can change the pictures, making, for example a black and white picture full of color, a focused picture unfocused or a big picture small or vice versa.
- If you think sounds, you can change the sounds, changing the speed, the rhythm the and the tone of what you hear.
- If there are feelings you can spin your feelings in different directions, place them in your body or outside, near or far, heavy or light etc.
And you can even change all three, it all comes from your brain and it is exactly just that… your brain.
It takes a bit of practice, but you can do this if you have to wait somewhere, or before you fall asleep or if you use public transport, during your commute. If you have the time give yourself the space to sit and meditate on this to stop any over thinking or mind wandering.
I wish you all the best in your new journey of 2020.
I hope you are as happy as you would like to be and remember it is free to be kind.
Best wishes,
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